Kid-Friendly or Adult-Only?
One of the most stressful parts about wedding planning for a couple is making the guest list. The part of it that can really spark some debate is deciding between a kid-friendly or an adult-only wedding. It is ultimately up to the bride and groom to decide what is best for their wedding day, but here are some things to consider.
1.) Realistically, how many kids would actually attend if you allowed your guests to bring their kids? Is it even worth excluding them if it's only a handful?
2.) Just because you invite a family doesn't mean the parents will bring their kids with them. They may prefer paying for a babysitter and having mom & dad's night out or they may prefer having the family together to celebrate.
3.) If you decide on Adult-Only, how do you notify the parents?
a.) "Adult only reception"
b.) "Regrettably, children are unable to attend"
c.) "We have ____ seats reserved in your honor"
d.) Include a FAQ section on the wedding website
e.) Address envelop with "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" vs "Mr. & Mrs. Smith & Family"
4.) If you are torn on what to do, are you able to provide a child-care room at the reception to give parents the option at the celebration?
5.) How do you feel about only inviting family members' kids instead of all kids to limit the children invites?
Why to Consider a Kid-Friendly Wedding:
They are important to you
They are the children of people you care about and want at the wedding
Will make attendance easier for guests because they don't need to find a babysitter
Kids meals are cheaper than adult meals and no alcohol charges (small extra cost for kids)
Kids bring a fun energy
It's impossible to not have cute pictures if a kid is in them
Lighten the mood with their presence
Good experience for the kids to be involved in and feel included and welcomed by adults
Have you ever seen kids dancing? Nothing better. It brings a smile to anyone's face.
More people=more presents
Why to Consider an Adult-Only Wedding:
Kids can add a level of unpredictability
Kids can be loud and run around
Kids can distract attention from bride/groom
Not appropriate for kids to attend if creating a partying atmosphere
Allows your loved ones enjoy a night out
Less people=less wedding expenses
If tight on space/headcount, kids can add to that and take guest list invites away from adults